I do remember the pivotal moment clearly. I was standing at the end of the hall, between our two bedrooms at our home in the Idaho mountains.

Steph and I were packed up and ready to move on from there. She was heading to Tennessee to be with her daughter, I was considering several destinations, somewhere in the South West, start a new life! Steph and I were pointed in different directions.

Finally she said, in that hallway, You need to decide!, and I told her I would follow her to Tennessee. I could have gone anywhere with a small U-Haul towing my truck! But I chose here...

I drove all of our trimmed down possessions in a mid-sized U-Haul to Summertown, TN, unloaded her stuff to a storage locker and my stuff to this house. Then I took a fucking Greyhound bus back to Idaho. Then Steph and I with our cat Piper drove back here to Tennessee. It was a fun road trip actually.

I can't say it was a mistake coming here, since I've had some amazing times, but my relationship with Steph and her family was off from the moment we arrived. It finally dissolved into sadly, nothing...

I've dwelled on this topic before, about how a single decision can impact your life and your future. I don't believe in the concept of fate driving us to our destiny, instead, we are behind the wheel.

I started this blog within a week of arriving here. Got me some Internet, bought the OldManJim domain name, then installed the Joomla! platform as it's base. My previous blog was a WordPress, with comments, and I wanted something new. You notice this blog does not allow comments, a decision I'm very glad I made.

Who knows if the same domain name would have been grabbed in Arizona? I guess the decision to come here was good, meant to be! Oh wait, that's called fate...

We need to realize the possibilities, and the possible disasters, of every important move we make.

Then take responsibility for the decision, and just go for it!